Saturday, March 28, 2009


I am on a men’s team. We meet every Tuesday night to support each other facing life’s challenges. Whether it’s business, financial, family or relationship issues, we are there for each other like a band of brothers in a completely safe and trusting environment. It is amazing to me how many men on my team are having continuing problems relating to the women in their lives.

Additionally, it is amazing how many men have been divorced at least once. As a result, there is a wealth of experience in this area and a huge amount of collective wisdom. It makes me wonder why it is so difficult for men and women to get along in long term, committed relationships. There is no simple answer since there are many different dynamics at work here.

Most of the men in my circle have done The Men’s Weekend with Justin Sterling of the Sterling Institute. This is a powerful weekend workshop that transforms men into the man they want to become and who their woman would cheat on them to be with. Does this make sense?

I believe we need to work hard on our relationships. They do not happen by themselves. We live in an ever-evolving, complicated society where the original laws of attraction between the sexes are distorted by work, financial pressures, family challenges, and an ever changing dynamic of male and female roles in society. It is important for the sake of good relationships to get back to the roots of what brings male and female energy together to create a lasting bond. It simply takes hard work.

There are other good workshops out there, too, that can help. One my girlfriend recommends is called, “Understanding Women, Celebrating Men.” I am planning to do this workshop later this year and will report back to you. I would strongly urge all men to do the Sterling Men’s Weekend, to help get your mojo back, and become the man both you and your woman want you to be.

Thursday, March 5, 2009


I speak to many women every day who have their hormones replaced by doctors in the most random ways. Most traditional doctors treat menopause and hormone replacement based only on symptoms, and with no consideration of what is happening in women’s bodies physiologically. I’ve seen some pretty frightening things in my time.

One of the worst is when a woman starts having menopausal symptoms and the doctor never checks her hormone levels. Women tell me quite often that they’ve reported having irregular periods to their gynecologists. This usually occurs with women who are close to 50-years-old. Gynecologists are supposed to be experts in women’s health and especially with issues like menopause. I have even seen a few women in this situation being put on birth control pills to regulate their periods.

The most common scenario for replacing women’s hormones is to put them on a static dose of hormones. The only time in a woman’s life that she would have hormones continuously would be during pregnancy. And this is when women gain a lot of weight, develop high blood pressure, and insulin resistance.

Many times, menopause symptoms are treated with anti-depressants, anti-anxiety drugs and sleeping pills. All of these treatments could and should be eliminated. Simply restoring a hormone balance would resolve all the problems associated with menopause—and without the use of any toxic, prescription drugs. The only hormone replacement approach that makes sense to me is to administer hormones in a dosage as close as possible to the pattern existing in a patient before menopause. This pattern should be rhythmic and suited to the individual.

I also don’t believe that women with hysterectomies should be treated with a different hormone schedule. Many doctors feel that if a woman doesn’t have a uterus, then she doesn’t need progesterone. The question to ask then is: “What about the rest of her body?”

Progesterone doesn’t just go to the uterus. It travels throughout the body where it plays an important function in balancing women’s hormones. Ultimately, I believe that putting women’s hormones back as close to the way they were before menopause has the greatest benefit for maintaining health. It can also prevent disease as well as age-related declines in health. It is vital to support normal body function as long as possible for optimal healthy aging in both women and men. Have you had any experiences like the ones I’ve described in this post? I’d like to know.